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Solutions

Problem solving is a fundamental part of human functioning, and we are all constantly making decisions and solving problems every day, from simple to complex issues.

Challenges are also built into life for individuals and families so the earlier we build skills for facing and moving through these challenges the better and families are stronger as a result.

Having a flexible and open approach to the potential solutions that could be considered and maintaining openness and acceptance of others opinions and positions, will assist in developing solutions that will build rapport and relationships, and achieve goals.

Ideas for applying the PLS Solutions concept at home:


• Encourage open communication when problems arise. Support children to build their skills in describing problems out loud and clarify back so you are both confident that you have understood the situation.


• Brainstorm solutions with your child, emphasising that you are only brainstorming and that means all solutions are being considered at this point (even far-fetched ones). This will support them to build their creative thinking skills and then together you can eliminate any that are not at all feasible. Sometimes great out of the box and successful solutions are identified this way.


• Work through the pros and cons of their solution ideas identifying the potential and positive and negative consequences for each potential solution and then encourage your child to choose a solution and to give it a go and see what happens.


• When you encounter behavioural issues try a problem-solving approach. E.g., ‘You haven’t been completing your homework lately, let’s problem-solve this together.’ Ask them what seems to be getting in the way? Help them to see that this is a choice they are making and work through the outcomes associated with each choice. Let them know that you want to support them to meet their responsibilities and work through some solutions with them. Consider some potential negotiations in this example that might support both your perspectives.


• If your child has forgotten to do something, ask them ‘How did this get missed? What got in the way? What can you do to ensure this doesn’t happen again?’ Encourage your child to brainstorm some solutions.


• When children make decisions, e.g., they decided to spend all their birthday money on one item and still want other things, work through this outcome with them without solving it. They will have to wait for the other. Discuss with them ways they could have made a different choice for next time.


• Encourage your child to play games, puzzles that will inspire creative and critical thinking skills and encourage them to stretch their minds.


• Be honest and open when you are making family decisions and share some of your decision-making outcomes which may not have been so good for you letting them know that you make mistakes too.

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